【你問我答Round 1 Part 3/3】 (English writing below but imho Chinese one is funnier...)
QUESTION 3: Joseph Ng
「季謙您好，請問一個人如何能在諸多煩惱中找到一片刻的安寧？」
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【庸人才自擾】
我答：
師兄如果只是要「片刻」的安寧，又何必問我呢？
在這人間，要得「片刻」的安寧，方法很多，聽個音樂、和朋友喝喝茶，甚至刷刷臉書看貓看狗看勵志片，方法之多，任君挑。
我自幼家事甚多、煩惱纏身，皈依佛教，修習密法，圖的正是『永恆』的安寧。
我的人，和我的風水術一樣，講求實在。
「片刻」有何用？「片刻」能多久？一首歌的時間？還是一部長電影的時間？
「片刻」過後，你的心，還不是一樣不安寧，中間更耗了不少福份，這種自欺欺人的事，老娘才不幹。😄
有無煩惱，都由自己的心來決定。
您的心，沒有戒力、沒有定力、沒有慧力，閉塞了，看隻螞蟻都是煩惱，一天到晚，都要唱「最近比較煩，比較煩，比較煩......」。
跟你說些我的故事吧！
一輛車要有好風水，首先裡外都要乾淨。像我這照片裡的車，土煞甚多，非常不詳。
無奈從然我免費指點，客人擲千金才得的知識，這車子的主人卻常常不聽。
一年前，我偶然看到臉書照片，便指點一位講座出席者，趕快換個新的電腦鍵盤。他的鍵盤，因長年使用，好些鍵上的字符已「功成身退」。
當時那位出席者未見過我，他卻把我的話銘記在心，幾天內就買了個新鍵盤。
我們用來謀財的工具永遠都要保持在最佳狀態，內在美固然重要，但顏值也不能太差勁。這樣我們的「正財」才能很順利地飛入我們的口袋。
這兩件事情，真的是讓我歡喜，讓我煩......
再說另外一件事。
某日，我本應約要到新加坡的西部看場居家風水。
在勘察的前一天，年輕的女客人突然向我要求我手機號碼。
我告訴她我一向都沒有給手機號碼的習慣，只通過臉書聯絡，所有的客人都一樣。
她反問我：「你不覺得給號碼會比較有誠意和容易溝通嗎？」
坦白說，家門口常塞了很多房屋經紀的傳單。他們的手機號碼都印得大大的，你會覺得那就是誠意嗎？
我掏心掏肺寫了400多篇文章，開了近70場臉書直播，每一條留言我幾乎都會回復，這不是我誠意的表現嗎？沒有這些，只有手機號碼，妳會來找我嗎？
一個隨便都可以換的手機號碼，和一個成立多年的臉書帳戶，只有前者才算真實嗎？
我並沒辯解太多，便和客人達成協議，取消了那場風水。
這樣的事情，會讓我煩惱嗎？
她的要求不過份，只是咱倆的觀點不一樣，把這事寫出來，並非在損她，想說的是......
如果我執著於那個紅包，
擔心她在背後批評我，慫恿別人不來找我服務，
很介意為何最親的家人，還不如一個陌生人那般的重視我的指導，
如果我只在意結果，而不能享受這過程，
我永遠都會在煩惱，沒有一刻安寧。
我選擇智慧。
我師尊，蓮生活佛，曾說：「以無所得故，立斷煩惱。」
有欲望，就會有煩惱。
有求的時候，煩。
追求的過程，煩。
得到了要守住，煩。
得不到，更煩。
得到了，又要追求新的，煩煩煩。
最好笑的就是，到頭來，卻什麼都帶不走，唯有業隨身。業障多，煩惱也多，所以大家都要勤守戒，勤消業，才能談得上自在快樂。
其實很多事情是求不到的。本來什麼都沒有，連煩惱也是空。
我們來地球只是做賓客罷了，有賓就有主，我們的心就是主。
心放得下，一切就能活得自然。一般人是做不到，這需要皈依明師，修習心法。
也有另外一個說法，就是一個人居家和公司的風水如果不好，煩惱也會比較多，上班煩，回到家看到老婆大人也煩，每個月看銀行存則，更是煩不甚煩。
怎樣，師兄，要雙管齊下，看看風水，安安心嗎？😄
祝大家早日皈依明師，修得心能轉境，而不會被境轉。
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Last question from Joseph Ng in my Saturday's AMA:
"Hi Ji Qian, may I ask how can a person find a moment of tranquility amidst all the afflictions?"
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My answer:
Dear Dharma Brother, if a "moment" of tranquility is what you are after, why is there a need to ask me?
In this mortal world, there are many ways to get this "moment" of peace. You can listen to a song, go have tea with some friends, or just swipe your Facebook and look at cats, dogs or some motivational video.
The methods are many, for your picking.
I grew in family of conflicts, and had been ridden with afflictions since young. I take refuge in the Triple Gems and practice Varjayana Buddhism, so that I can achieve "eternal" inner peace.
My personality is just like my Feng Shui skills. I go for practicality.
What is the point of a "moment"? How long can a moment last? As long as the song sings? As long as the long movie plays?
After that "moment" flies by, your heart remains turbulent, and your fortune get exhausted in your pursuits of momental peace. I don't have the habit of self-deception. 😄
Vexation or not, your mind decides.
If your mind does not have precept strength, meditative strength and wisdom strength, and is clogged, even looking at an ant will cause you affliction. From day to night, you can only be singing, "最近比較煩，比較煩，比較煩......"
Let me tell you some of my stories!
The first and foremost thing about a car's Feng Shui is to keep the car clean at all times.
A car of such "cleanliness" in this photo carries a lot of 土煞 (baleful energies due to excessive Earth).
Pity the owner of this car doesn't always listen to me, despite me dishing out free advice that people pay good money for.
A year ago, I advised a workshop participant to change his keyboard, when I saw his FB photo. His keyboard had many missing characters from the keys, due to long years of usage.
Having never met me in person before, he took my advice to heart and bought a new keyboard within days.
Our tools of trade must always be kept in tip-top and pristine condition, in order to constantly receive wealth from our careers with as little drama and obstructions as possible.
These two separate incidents brought me joy and worry at the same time...
Another story:
One day, I was supposed to head to the west of Singapore for a Feng Shui audit.
The day before, the young female client suddenly asked me for my mobile phone number.
I told her that I never had the practice of giving out my number. I only communicate via FB, and it applied to all clients.
She asked me, "Don't you think it is more sincere and easier to communicate with a number?"
Honestly speaking, our gates are often stuffed with many flyers from property agents. Their numbers are printed in big fonts across the paper. Will you consider that as sincerity?
I poured my heart out in writing 400+ posts and did 70+ FB Lives. I replied to almost every comment. Isn't that a show of my sincerity? Without all these, but just a phone number, would you have looked for me?
A mobile number that can be easily changed vs a Facebook account that has been established for years. Should only the former be considered authentic?
I didn't explain much with the client, but I reached a consensus with her and cancelled the audit.
Will such an incident cause affliction for me?
Her request wasn't too much. Just that our viewpoints are different. I wrote this, not to make her look bad, but to say...
If I am stubborn about that angpow I could have gotten,
If I worry about her talking bad behind me, encouraging other people not to look for me,
If I am very affected with why my closed ones do not value my teachings as much as a complete stranger,
If I only care about the end result, and fail to enjoy the process,
I will ALWAYS be suffering in afflictions, never having any moment of peace.
I choose to live my life with wisdom.
My Grandmaster, Living Buddha Lian Sheng, once expounded: 「以無所得故，立斷煩惱。」
As long as there is desire, there will be afflictions.
When you have a want, you feel troubled.
In pursuing your want, you feel troubled.
When you have gotten your want, and wish to guard it, you feel troubled.
When you can't get what you want, you feel even more troubled.
When you chase a new want, after getting what you want, the process starts all over again.
The most amusing thing is, at the end of the day, nobody can take away anything from here, except their personal karma.
The more karmic obstructions there are, the more vexations you will have.
Hence, my advice to everyone: be steadfast in adhering to your precepts and eradicate your negative karma diligently. Only then will you be truly at ease and joyous.
There are many things in the word that can't be sought. Everything amounts to emptiness. Even afflictions.
We are here on Earth as guests. When there are guests, there must be a host. Our minds are our hosts.
If your mind can let go, you can live life in a natural way. Most people aren't able to do it. That requires taking refuge in an accomplished master, and practice mental cultivation.
There's another explanation for your vexations too.
When a person does not have good Feng Shui at home and in his office, he tend to feel troubled frequently. He feels troubled at home, and the feeling intensified when he returns home and see his wife. Every month when he sees his bankbook, he feels most troubled.
So, my dear Dharma brother, do you want to get your Feng Shui audited to give your heart some peace? 😄
May everyone take refuge in an accomplished Master soon, and cultivate your mind to remain unperturbed as external conditions change, and have the ability to change them instead.
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