最好的自己不在未來，就在現在。
認真回想，以前我好像在每一段關係中都是在扮演某一個角色，不由自主的在為每個對象做調整。不只有在戀愛上，有時候可能跟朋友、工作夥伴都是，尤其是在前輩面前，常常我都會本能反應似的改變自己。聲音要甜一點嗎？笑話要低級一點嗎？從穿衣服就可以看出，我今天是要跟誰吃飯。雖然是微調，但透露出了一件事，我好像不夠喜歡真正的自己，所以才會擔心大家也不會喜歡真正的我。我告訴自己即使累，但如果持續努力，有一天就能變成大家都喜歡的Lara。
久而久之我和世界的相處模式只有「由外到內」，會依照別人對我的反應去斷定我的下一步。大家會覺得我很好相處，我卻越來越不快樂。現在我慢慢開始懂了，原來我把順序弄反了。我該優先處理的是自己內心的感受，其他人買不買單，其實跟你一點關係都沒有。就像找另外一半，如果我跟夢中情人在一起，但我根本無法在他面前做自己，最後還是會走不下去。
我現在33歲，So What? 終於懂，「當下的自己」才是人生時間軸上最重要的！
對了，有人好奇這次「{}」的意思嗎？簡單說是「大括號」，在數學運算式中稱作「空集合」。數學不好的人就想像一個清空的行李箱吧。「空」不是無，而是無限可能。括號還有另外一個更好懂的意思，就是「優先處理」。將過去整理過後的自己，回歸純粹，態度成熟自信！(失戀後重新出發的人應該很有感觸吧！🤣)
Your best self is not in the future, but in the Now.
Looking back, I seem to have been playing a role in almost every relationship I was ever in. I'm not just talking about romantic relationships. Whether it was with friends or colleagues (especially seniors), I would modify myself almost instinctively. Should my voice be sweeter? My jokes dirtier? If you wanted to know who I was eating with that day, all you had to do was look at the clothes I was wearing.
The changes were subtle, but they still reflected a truth: I didn’t feel like the real me was enough so I was worried that other people would also find her lacking. I told myself that if I just kept working at it, I would someday become a version of Lara that everyone accepted.
Eventually I only knew how to get my cues from the external world. I would always base my next step on feedback I got from others. Most people considered me easy to get along with, but I grew more and more unhappy.
I think I had it all wrong. My first priority should have been listening to my inner voice. Whether or not other people agree with it is not in my control nor of my concern. Take looking for a partner. Even if I found the person of my dreams, it would never last if I couldn’t be myself around them.
I am 33 years old. So What? I finally understand that "the present self" is the most important thing on the timeline of life! It’s time to prioritize me!
By the way, is anyone curious about the meaning of "{}" this time? Besides the more commonly known representation of parentheses as prioritization, these curly brackets are called “the empty set”. The empty what? If like me, math is not your strongest suit, think of it as an empty suitcase. "Empty" doesn’t mean nothing, but infinite possibilities! What will you fill your life with this time?
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always be with you意思 在 [外絮] 阿銀：最不想看到把事情搬到檯面上- 看板NBA 的美食出口停車場
Adam Silver says he wishes James Harden, Ben Simmons trade was handled differe
ntly
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阿銀受訪談到關於哈登和西門的交易
“Players forcing their way out of situations is not new in this league. It’s
important to have that context,” Silver told Yahoo Sports. “I’d love to fi
nd a way where to the extent there’s player movement, it didn’t happen in th
at fashion.”
在這個聯盟中，想強迫自己擺脫困境的球員並不新鮮。在這樣的背景下，我很想找到一種
方法，在球員可行的範圍內，它不會以那種方式發生。
“I accept that there will always be conversations behind closed doors, when t
eams are unhappy, or players are unhappy, [but] the last thing you want to see
is for these issues to play out publicly,” Silver said. “One of the things
that continue to do in my role is to think about ways we can improve the syste
m.”
我可以接受有私下的對話，不管是不開心的球隊還是不開心的球員之間。但我最不想看到
的，就是把事情搬到檯面上。作為總裁，我一直致力於尋找讓整個體系變得更好的辦法。
“I did watch a little bit of James and Ben’s press conferences earlier today
,” Silver told Yahoo Sports. “And you’re reminded that when you see them si
tting up there, on those podiums doing these interviews, these are human being
s, who, in both cases, have gone through very stressful situations.
我看了一下哈登和西門的記者會，看到他們坐在上面接受採訪，我會覺得他們也是人，也
經歷了非常高壓的處境。
“You want people to feel, at the end of the day, they have outlets for their
stress, that they can be productive within their work setting. But I’m not su
rprised that we’ve seen some heightened flare up of some issues, you know, th
at might have otherwise been handled behind closed doors.
你希望人們在一天結束時能感受到，他們有壓力的出口，他們可以在工作環境中富有成效
。 但我並不感到驚訝，我們已經看到一些問題的加劇並爆發，你知道的，否則這些問題
可能會在檯面下處理。
“But this is not the way I would have liked to see it happen.”
但這不是我希望看到它發生的方式。
短評或心得：
阿銀：不要血流成河！
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