Hi Chan Fong, sorry that I have to seek your advice in English as I can’t write in Mandarin. This is regarding my relationship.
I am 35 and he is 41. We have been together for 8 months and have ‘broke off’ for 8 months too. We didn’t meet up to officially discuss on the break off. It happened over WhatsApp messages.
The broke off happened as I invited him to my brother’s wedding which was held in Bali. Initially he was ok to attend and towards the very last minute he asked me to exclude him when I asked him for menu selection during the wedding dinner. No explanation was given that that point of time. I was disappointed for his actions and we didn’t talk since.
Few months have passed on and he sent me an email on 31 Dec 2019 that he was hospitalized and owed me an apology. And I replied him that I was extremely disappointed of him. Anyways his and my emails ended in courteous manners.
Again, he sent me another email last week that my workplace has been reported a confirm COVID-19 case. Asking me to take care of himself. But this time I didn’t reply as I do not know how to reply. I have shared my feeling on my previous email to him.
Another note that bothering me is that he bought me 2 units of aircon in my house estimated RM3k.
I requested to repay him the RM3K before our relationship turned sour but he refused to accept it. Now I’m feeling guilty for having him to spend RM3K and we didn’t work out.
To seek your advice if I should return him the RM3k and we should sit down and talk about our matter? Thanks
Michelle
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[MRM Reply To FMT's Reader Comment]
Dear Mr. Ravinder Singh
I begin with the greetings of peace and Salam.
My name is Firdaus Wong and I am the person of whom you referred to in your article "Defying one's religious teachings to belittle another's".
First of all, as Muslims, we are taught in the Qur'an that, if we receive news from a person who errs, we should investigate and clarify it first, lest we may end up inadvertently harming others in our ignorance. (Refer to chapter 49:hujaraat, Verse 6). So it would have been a much more appropriate measure and a better conduct for us to have a decent conversation and clarified my point and Dr. Zakir Naik's, instead of posting a public article on Free Malaysia Today, immediately jumping to the erroneous conclusion and false accusation that I have defended an individual who defied his own religion.
In today's age of social media and email, we live in a world today that communication is easy and rather effortless, that it would have been much civilized and easier to contact me in person instead of releasing a such controversial and derogatory article.
Regardless, what's done is done, and moving forward, I write to you with the intent of correcting and clarifying the errors made in your writings; in full acknowledgement and respect that you write the article in sincere intent of clarifying the truth, and not a mere cheap attempt at riding on the bandwagon of Dr Zakir Naik's current popularity just to gain public attention and likes.
What you have said regarding the teachings of Islam, that there is no compulsion in religion, and that we should not belittle others, is exactly correct.
In the Quran chapter 2:Al-Baqarah Verse 256 Allah tells us "there is no compulsion in calling others to religion", and in chapter 49:Al-Hujaraat, chapter 11, Muslims are warned never to scoff and look down on others - "O you who believe! Let not a group scoff at another group, it may be that the latter are better than the former; nor let (some) women scoff at other women, it may be that the latter are better than the former, nor defame one another, nor insult one another by nicknames. How evil is it, to insult one's brother after having Faith [i.e. to call your Muslim brother (a faithful believer) as: "O sinner", or "O wicked", etc.]. And whosoever does not repent, then such are indeed those who have evil"
Having said that, Dr. Zakir Naik has never belittled or scorned other religions, and neither has he forced others to join the religion of islam. Your article itself has failed to provide any evidence to substantiate this claim.
In fact, if you have watched his videos, when people convert to islam in his public events, it is out of their own sincere willingness. Being a man of integrity, I am sure you have seen at least some of his videos on YouTube, and perhaps have some proof to substantiate your claims.
When Dr Zakir mentions that God does not have son, he quotes it directly from the Qur'an. So how can you say he defies the Qur'an by quoting directly from it?
Your own statement has defied and contradicted your own logic.
Unless, what you are actually trying to say is that, the Qur'an itself is taking negatively about other religions and that islam itself is a bad religion for preaching this negativity.
And where, in his quoting of these characteristics of God, does he speak of in a belittling, negative or derogatory manner of other religions?
What Dr. Zakir Naik does, as with the obligation of every Muslim, is simply promote the religion of Islam transparently as how God has Revealed in His Final, undistorted Revelation, the Holy Qur'an, and through the teachings of His Final Messenger, Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم. He does this in full respect of other religions, quoting from their own religious scriptures on what their true teachings are, not simply what their culture or tradition dictates. He never makes derogatory remarks on others, in the same way that, if we were to clarify our country's Laws to other countries which contradict what our country has legislated, we never did that with the intent of belittling or degrading their Law, simply stating our differences and an attempt to convince the other party that perhaps our point may be stronger and worthy of consideration to be implemented. But if you are not convinced and still feel your law is more worthy of implementation, and that you wish to remain in your ways, then by all means, I will not penalize or disrespect you - and hence what is meant by "there is no compulsion", and "to you, your religion, and to me mine".
But this does not negate our duty to propagate and promote the message of Islam.
As Muslims we propagate islam, because we are passionate about our religion and what we are convinced of as the Truth, because that gives us happiness and contentment in this life and a positive outlook on the life to come. And in knowing this beautiful way of life, it would be utterly selfish for us to reserve this message to ourselves, and hence we propagate the religion islam as we wish for others the same goodness that we have been blessed with, and that is why we are commanded by Allah not to be stingy of this faith :
"Invite mankind to the Way of your Lord (i.e. Islam) with wisdom and fair preaching, and argue with them in a way that is better." (Chapter 16:An-Nahl, Verse 125)
Your claims that "Zakir seems to have come on a political mission to get PAS and Umno to form a coalition" is completely baseless, speculative and provocative. You have no right to judge his intent as political, and this statement seems to be an unprofessional attempt of character assassination to instigate undeserved hatred against Dr Zakir.
When Dr Zakir makes the claim that it is better for them to form a coalition, this is not with political intent, rather reiterating the beautiful unity and harmony God asks the Muslims to achieve, to be United and cooperate on the terms of faith and not the terms of flags, borders, political parties or organizations.
"And hold tightly, all of you together, to the Rope of Allah (i.e. this Quran, this religion), and be not divided among yourselves, and remember Allah's Favour on you, for you were enemies one to another but He joined your hearts together (through faith)" (Chapter 3:al imran, Verse 103)
A HOUSE NOT WELL KEPT?
Regarding your statement,
Shouldn’t the pious Muslim be more concerned over his brethren who are not following the teachings of the Quran and go on a jihad to bring them back to the right path instead of trying to get more people to convert to Islam?
Simple logic: If your house is not well kept, how are you going to make it well kept by bringing more “property” into it and strewing it all over the place?
Firstly it is quite apparent by your statement that you are not aware of the multitude Islamic initiatives and organizations currently in existence and in operation, both in the country and globally - all in the intent of continuously educating, correcting ourselves and helping each other towards righteousness. Thousands, millions of Muslims collaborate and benefit each other through these initiatives.
Having said that, This does not negate our obligation to propagate the religion and expand ourselves. Rather, both efforts come hand in hand.
Mr Ravinder, as an educated person I'm sure you know, an organization that does not expand itself, is doomed for failure. So should a company stop expanding just because it has a few troubled employees? Should a country stop scientific advancement and research because many of its citizens are lacking in scientific knowledge?
But the reality is, the Muslims, just like any other organization, no matter how excellent or perfect our self-improvement initiatives are, there will always be shortcomings in individuals, and it is the nature that God created us differently as a test to ourselves and to others.
"It does not matter if God has a son or not"
You speak of our religion as an outsider, without proof. On the contrary, referring to our Qur'an, it DOES matter; in the teachings of Islam, the trait of having a son is a sign of imperfection that is not befitting of the Majesty and Perfection of God.
"They say: God has begotten a son! Glory be to Him: He is the Self-sufficient: His is what is in the heavens and what is in the earth; you have no authority for this; do you say against Allah what you do not know? Say: Those who forge a lie against Allah shall never be successful." (Chapter 10:Yunus, Verse 68-69).
"Don’t ask others to partake of your religion by promising them the joys of heaven and threatening them with the fires of hell."
Well, Mr Ravinder, this is essentially the message of the Qur'an, not the personal whims of Dr Zakir Naik. Mr Ravinder, for the benefit of myself and the beloved Malaysian readers of FMT, please clarify : are you trying to tell Muslims to stop following the commandments of our own religion? Are you challenging the reference of the country's official religion? Are you hypocritically belittling the official religion of the soil which you live in?
"Nobody has gone to heaven or hell and come back to tell about these places. As such, all talk about heaven and hell is hearsay, and hearsay carries no weight."
Mr Ravinder, by your statement here you have demonstrated a lack of understanding in the purpose of revelation. What are books of revelation? Why do books of revelation exist?
Books of revelation are divine scriptures revealed from God Almighty to help give guidance to mankind; as the Creator, He Knows human beings more than they know themselves and hence Sends Revelation to guide mankind to the truth according to His Wisdom. Of all books of Revelation, the final and undistorted one is the Qur'an. Hence it is part of Muslim faith to take the Qur'an as undisputed truth from the Creator, affirmed by reason, rational thinking, and scientific research. And it is within this definite proof, that the existence of heaven and hell is substantiated and proven, by proof of testimony.
Hence the implications of your claim that these beliefs as "heresay" is in fact an attack on islam, that our beliefs are false and based on speculation without basis, which again as I mentioned earlier, is a blatant attack on the official national religion of our country.
I find it ironic that your article emphasizes on defiance and belittling of others, when your article actually implicated belittling Dr Zakir Naik, Muslims and the religion of Islam in general, and defies the customs of our national religion.
In conclusion, it is with these messages therefore, Mr Ravinder, that you should see that your article is false and only serves to stir controversy, provocation and an attack on Islam, and not just the individual person of Dr Zakir Naik. It is with this also I request this article to be deleted, and a public apology issued on behalf of your good self and another apology on behalf of FMT for releasing such provocative and derogatory articles.
When all is said and done however, I continue to respect you as a human being and humbly request we meet in person to discuss this as civilized men in seeking the truth.
Thank you for your time; and may God Guide us all the Truth and keep us steadfast and sincere on the Path of righteousness.
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考虑了很久还是决定和大家交代一下事情的全过程,我们不针对任何地区和staff,也希望朋友和fans不要去针对任何地区和工作人员,我们只是希望得到Cospar活动方一个令人满意的答复,虽然现在看来不太可能了。
After much consideration, We have decided to explain the current situation to everyone. We are not going to pinpoint the blame to any state or any staff, and hope that our friends and fans will do the same. We just hope to get a satisfactory answer and explanation from Cospar, although it seems like it may be impossible now .
我们受邀参加2014年在马来西亚槟城的cospar活动,主办方邀请我们在马来西亚进行一次外景,也帮我们安排了摄影师和接送~因为我们当天去完现场中午回宾馆更换衣服和重新化妆,可能本身状态已经不是很好~外景拍摄顺利,可是因为下雨场地光线很暗,照片很多需要后期调整光线。
We accepted an invite in 2014 to COSPAR held in Penang, Malaysia. The organiser also invited us to a photoshoot in Malaysia and helped to arrange for photographers and transport. As on the day itself, we went to attend the event as guests in the afternoon and then went back to the hotel to change outfits and re-do our makeup, perhaps we are not in our best condition~ The photoshoot went well, but maybe it was due to the fact that it was raining before, the lighting was very dark. The lighting needed to be adjusted in a lot of the photos.
摄影师也及时给予了我们照片,我们以为事情就是这么简单。3月15日经朋友和fans告知,2015年3月14-15日槟城的活动上主办方在贩卖和赠送我们之前外景的明信片,而且质量很差。
The photographer promptly gave us the photos, we had thought the situation then was just that simple. On the 15th of March, our friends and fans notified us that the Organisers of the Penang event held from 14-15 March were selling and giving away postcards featuring the photos that we previously took during our photoshoot with them. Not only that, but the quality of the postcards was bad.
此事我们完全不知情,甚至连图片什么样我们也不清楚。我们从未授权过主办方印刷任何周边!对此我们首先尝试和其他嘉宾一起联系主办方,我们希望中间有所误会或者能得到答复或道歉,可是至今无任何答复。我们联系了摄影师才知晓他作为官方摄影要求给予主办方我们拍摄的照片。
We were totally not aware of the situation, we didn’t even know what photos were used. We had never given permission to the organizers to print any goods! Together with the other guests, we first tried to contact the organisers. We wished to sort out the misunderstandings or receive an explanation or apology, but there was no reply till this day. After contacting the photographer, we found out that the organiser had requested that he provide some of our photos to them.
我们于3月15日当晚email和私信了主办方,希望询问具体情况,因考虑活动方需处理漫展后续工作,我们要求于3月17日中午前给予答复,并陆续发送4封邮件询问,无任何答复。后联系活动Staff确认主办方已收到我们的询问邮件,只是不愿回复和道歉,至此事件终了。
On the night of 15 March, we emailed and sent direct messages to the organiser, hoping to ask about the current situation. We requested that they provide an answer by the afternoon of 17 March as we understand that there may be matters to be taken care of since their event just ended. Subsequently, we have sent 4 messages to enquire and received no reply. After contacting other event staff members, they have confirmed that the organiser received our emails but just refused to reply us or apologise.
我们也需要说cospar活动我们玩的也蛮开心的,就算发生了这种事情我们先想到的也是沟通和私下解决。我们想说很多活动在我们的允许下印送我们的海报和明信片我们都非常Ok,我们也会提供好看的图片,我们真的不理解印送我们原片做成的明信片是出于什么心态?而且摄影也有P过光线较好看的图片,可是主办方还是选择了光线很黑的片子。这种逃避处理问题的方式也让我们十分生气,我们不在乎你卖了多少钱也没想要求赔偿,如果连做错事承认错误都做不到我们也不会想再进行任何交谈和沟通。
We also want to say we had fun in Cospar and were happy. Hence even if such a thing happened, our first thought is that we needed to communicate and settle this privately. We also want to say that many events, with our permission, have printed posters and postcards of us and we are very okay with that. We will even provide good photos. Therefore, we don’t understand their intentions for printing raw photos as postcards. Furthermore, the photographer has photoshopped other pictures in which the lighting was good, however the organiser still chose the photos in which the lighting was too dark. This method of dodging and avoiding questions is also making us extremely angry. We are neither concerned about the sales, nor are we asking for monetary compensation. With regret, if there is no apology for the wrongdoings you have committed, we too do not wish to continue further conversations and communications.
我们一直最善意的理解主办方的每一个安排,也尽量配合主办方的要求,我们一直认为善意会得到善意的回报,当然我们也会以此为戒,以后会多加注意,如果主办方坚持不道歉也不承诺再也不私自印刷嘉宾的周边,我们希望身边的朋友和fans不要再参加任何此主办方的任何活动。我们希望我们是最后一个遇上这样事情的.
We have always been the most understanding and cooperative towards the arrangement and demands made by the organiser and have tried our utmost best to meet the requests of the organiser. We always believed that our good faith would be rewarded in good will. Of course we will take this as a warning and will be more careful in the future.
If the organiser insists to not apologise and refuses to promise that they will not privately print photos of other guests, we hope that the friends and fans around us will stop participating in all of the organiser’s related events . We hope that this is the last time that we encounter such a situation.
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