關於 why am i such a failure ，我們在網路上蒐集到這些相關的討論、資訊與評價

【自杀並非解脫】
SUICIDE WILL NEVER BE THE END

我手頭上處理過好些女客人因為老公外遇，而悲痛萬分想自殺，有些甚至自殺過幾次但都失敗。

她們都說，被相愛多年的老公背叛，人生已失去意義，不懂如何活下去，要一死了之。

我問，孩子怎麼辦？

她們說老公很愛孩子，一定會照顧的。

不要笨啦，會愛孩子就不會偷吃了。

我還開玩笑說：「幸好你沒死，要不然我這個Zoom視訊不可以安排在白天了，得半夜十二點後Zoom到地府去找你，還得跟你算OT！」

我盡我能力在那有限的時間內，開導客人，指引她們一條明路。

我也是女人，怎麼會不懂被曾發誓會與我長相廝守的伴侶背叛的痛呢？

客人哭著跟我喊：自己的人生如此失敗，不懂自己還能給予孩子什麼。

你不要去死，就能夠教導你的女兒和兒子們，一個女人活下去該有的自信和膽識了。

我的影片當中，談愛情婚姻的流量是較低的，但有觀眾把這些影片分享給在痛苦中的親朋好友。也因為如此，我拍片從來不以流量為第一考量，而是到底能不能夠幫到人。

自殺並非解脫，改次我拍支影片，談談這類三角關係的因因果果。

還有，姐妹們，跳樓自殺的鬼，體無完膚，樣子真的真的很難看，我當真沒在騙你。

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I have handled many cases of female clients whose husbands committed infidelity. My clients were in so much grief and pain that they either intended to or have attempted to commit suicide several times but failed.

They said the same thing. That having been betrayed by the man whom they deeply loved, their lives had lost all significance and they no longer know how to continue living.

I asked what would happen to their children?

They would replied that the husband loved the kids and would take care of them.

Don’t be stupid. If he had truly loved them, he would not have cheated.

I would also joke, “Lucky you didn’t die, otherwise my Zoom call cannot be scheduled in the day time. I will have to go to hell to find you for our Zoom call, and must be after midnight. Then I must charge you for overtime work!”

I tried my best to comfort and guide the client onto a clear path, in the limited time we have.

I am also a woman. How will I not understand the excruciating pain of being betrayed by the man who had taken the vows to be with me “till death do us part”?

The client cried and shouted, “My life is such a failure. What do I have to give to my children?”

As long as you don’t go and die, you will be teaching your daughters and sons the confidence and courage a woman can have.

Among my many videos, those on topics of love and marriage have lower views. Yet there are audience who share these videos with their family and friends who are experiencing such agony in their personal lives.

This is why I never decide on a topic based on viewership. I decide based on whether it can help people.

Suicide isn’t liberation. Next time I will do a video that talks about the karmic implications of such love triangles.

And by the way, sisters, ghosts who committed suicide by jumping down really really look ugly with their broken limbs and open wounds. I am not kidding you.

【《金融時報》深度長訪】

今年做過數百外媒訪問，若要說最能反映我思緒和想法的訪問，必然是《金融時報》的這一個，沒有之一。

在排山倒海的訪問裡，這位記者能在短短個半小時裡，刻畫得如此傳神，值得睇。

Joshua Wong plonks himself down on a plastic stool across from me. He is there for barely 10 seconds before he leaps up to greet two former high school classmates in the lunchtime tea house melee. He says hi and bye and then bounds back. Once again I am facing the young man in a black Chinese collared shirt and tan shorts who is proving such a headache for the authorities in Beijing.

So far, it’s been a fairly standard week for Wong. On a break from a globe-trotting, pro-democracy lobbying tour, he was grabbed off the streets of Hong Kong and bundled into a minivan. After being arrested, he appeared on the front pages of the world’s newspapers and was labelled a “traitor” by China’s foreign ministry.

He is very apologetic about being late for lunch.

Little about Wong, the face of Hong Kong’s democracy movement, can be described as ordinary: neither his Nobel Peace Prize nomination, nor his three stints in prison. Five years ago, his face was plastered on the cover of Time magazine; in 2017, he was the subject of a hit Netflix documentary, Joshua: Teenager vs Superpower. And he’s only 23.

We’re sitting inside a Cantonese teahouse in the narrow back streets near Hong Kong’s parliament, where he works for a pro-democracy lawmaker. It’s one of the most socially diverse parts of the city and has been at the heart of five months of unrest, which has turned into a battle for Hong Kong’s future. A few weekends earlier I covered clashes nearby as protesters threw Molotov cocktails at police, who fired back tear gas. Drunk expats looked on, as tourists rushed by dragging suitcases.

The lunch crowd pours into the fast-food joint, milling around as staff set up collapsible tables on the pavement. Construction workers sit side-by-side with men sweating in suits, chopsticks in one hand, phones in the other. I scan the menu: instant noodles with fried egg and luncheon meat, deep fried pork chops, beef brisket with radish. Wong barely glances at it before selecting the hometown fried rice and milk tea, a Hong Kong speciality with British colonial roots, made with black tea and evaporated or condensed milk.

“I always order this,” he beams, “I love this place, it’s the only Cantonese teahouse in the area that does cheap, high-quality milk tea.” I take my cue and settle for the veggie and egg fried rice and a lemon iced tea as the man sitting on the next table reaches over to shake Wong’s hand. Another pats him on the shoulder as he brushes by to pay the bill.

Wong has been a recognisable face in this city since he was 14, when he fought against a proposal from the Hong Kong government to introduce a national education curriculum that would teach that Chinese Communist party rule was “superior” to western-style democracy. The government eventually backed down after more than 100,000 people took to the streets. Two years later, Wong rose to global prominence when he became the poster boy for the Umbrella Movement, in which tens of thousands of students occupied central Hong Kong for 79 days to demand genuine universal suffrage.

That movement ended in failure. Many of its leaders were sent to jail, among them Wong. But the seeds of activism were planted in the generation of Hong Kongers who are now back on the streets, fighting for democracy against the world’s most powerful authoritarian state. The latest turmoil was sparked by a controversial extradition bill but has evolved into demands for true suffrage and a showdown with Beijing over the future of Hong Kong. The unrest in the former British colony, which was handed over to China in 1997, represents the biggest uprising on Chinese soil since the 1989 pro-democracy movement in Beijing. Its climax, of course, was the Tiananmen Square massacre, when hundreds, perhaps thousands, of people were killed.

“We learnt a lot of lessons from the Umbrella Movement: how to deal with conflict between the more moderate and progressive camps, how to be more organic, how to be less hesitant,” says Wong. “Five years ago the pro-democracy camp was far more cautious about seeking international support because they were afraid of pissing off Beijing.”

Wong doesn’t appear to be afraid of irking China. Over the past few months, he has lobbied on behalf of the Hong Kong protesters to governments around the world. In the US, he testified before Congress and urged lawmakers to pass an act in support of the Hong Kong protesters — subsequently approved by the House of Representatives with strong bipartisan support. In Germany, he made headlines when he suggested two baby pandas in the Berlin Zoo be named “Democracy” and “Freedom.” He has been previously barred from entering Malaysia and Thailand due to pressure from Beijing, and a Singaporean social worker was recently convicted and fined for organising an event at which Wong spoke via Skype.

The food arrives almost immediately. I struggle to tell our orders apart. Two mouthfuls into my egg and cabbage fried rice, I regret not ordering the instant noodles with luncheon meat.

In August, a Hong Kong newspaper controlled by the Chinese Communist party published a photo of Julie Eadeh, an American diplomat, meeting pro-democracy student leaders including Wong. The headline accused “foreign forces” of igniting a revolution in Hong Kong. “Beijing says I was trained by the CIA and the US marines and I am a CIA agent. [I find it] quite boring because they have made up these kinds of rumours for seven years [now],” he says, ignoring his incessantly pinging phone.

Another thing that bores him? The media. Although Wong’s messaging is always on point, his appraisal of journalists in response to my questions is piercing and cheeky. “In 15-minute interviews I know journalists just need soundbites that I’ve repeated lots of times before. So I’ll say things like ‘I have no hope [as regards] the regime but I have hope towards the people.’ Then the journalists will say ‘oh that’s so impressive!’ And I’ll say ‘yes, I’m a poet.’ ”

And what about this choice of restaurant? “Well, I knew I couldn’t pick a five-star hotel, even though the Financial Times is paying and I know you can afford it,” he says grinning. “It’s better to do this kind of interview in a Hong Kong-style restaurant. This is the place that I conducted my first interview after I left prison.” Wong has spent around 120 days in prison in total, including on charges of unlawful assembly.

“My fellow prisoners would tell me about how they joined the Umbrella Movement and how they agreed with our beliefs. I think prisoners are more aware of the importance of human rights,” he says, adding that even the prison wardens would share with him how they had joined protests.

“Even the triad members in prison support democracy. They complain how the tax on cigarettes is extremely high and the tax on red wine is extremely low; it just shows how the upper-class elite lives here,” he says, as a waiter strains to hear our conversation. Wong was most recently released from jail in June, the day after the largest protests in the history of Hong Kong, when an estimated 2m people — more than a quarter of the territory’s 7.5m population — took to the streets.

Raised in a deeply religious family, he used to travel to mainland China every two years with his family and church literally to spread the gospel. As with many Hong Kong Chinese who trace their roots to the mainland, he doesn’t know where his ancestral village is. His lasting memory of his trips across the border is of dirty toilets, he tells me, mid-bite. He turned to activism when he realised praying didn’t help much.

“The gift from God is to have independence of mind and critical thinking; to have our own will and to make our own personal judgments. I don’t link my religious beliefs with my political judgments. Even Carrie Lam is Catholic,” he trails off, in a reference to Hong Kong’s leader. Lam has the lowest approval rating of any chief executive in the history of the city, thanks to her botched handling of the crisis.

I ask whether Wong’s father, who is also involved in social activism, has been a big influence. Wrong question.

“The western media loves to frame Joshua Wong joining the fight because of reading the books of Nelson Mandela or Martin Luther King or because of how my parents raised me. In reality, I joined street activism not because of anyone book I read. Why do journalists always assume anyone who strives for a better society has a role model?” He glances down at his pinging phone and draws a breath, before continuing. “Can you really describe my dad as an activist? I support LGBTQ rights,” he says, with a fist pump. His father, Roger Wong, is a well-known anti-gay rights campaigner in Hong Kong.

I notice he has put down his spoon, with half a plate of fried rice untouched. I decide it would be a good idea to redirect our conversation by bonding over phone addictions. Wong, renowned for his laser focus and determination, replies to my emails and messages at all hours and has been described by his friends as “a robot.”

He scrolls through his Gmail, his inbox filled with unread emails, showing me how he categorises interview requests with country tags. His life is almost solely dedicated to activism. “My friends and I used to go to watch movies and play laser tag but now of course we don’t have time to play any more: we face real bullets every weekend.”

The protests — which have seen more than 3,300 people arrested — have been largely leaderless. “Do you ever question your relevance to the movement?” I venture, mid-spoonful of congealed fried rice.

“Never,” he replies with his mouth full. “We have a lot of facilitators in this movement and I’m one of them . . . it’s just like Wikipedia. You don’t know who the contributors are behind a Wikipedia page but you know there’s a lot of collaboration and crowdsourcing. Instead of just having a top-down command, we now have a bottom-up command hub which has allowed the movement to last far longer than Umbrella.

“With greater power comes greater responsibility, so the question is how, through my role, can I express the voices of the frontliners, of the street activism? For example, I defended the action of storming into the Legislative Council on July 1. I know I didn’t storm in myself . . . ” His phone pings twice. Finally he succumbs.

After tapping away for about 30 seconds, Wong launches back into our conversation, sounding genuinely sorry that he wasn’t there on the night when protesters destroyed symbols of the Chinese Communist party and briefly occupied the chamber.

“My job is to be the middleman to express, evaluate and reveal what is going on in the Hong Kong protests when the movement is about being faceless,” he says, adding that his Twitter storm of 29 tweets explaining the July 1 occupation reached at least four million people. I admit that I am overcome with exhaustion just scanning his Twitter account, which has more than 400,000 followers. “Well, that thread was actually written by Jeffrey Ngo from Demosisto,” he say, referring to the political activism group that he heads.

A network of Hong Kong activists studying abroad helps fuel his relentless public persona on social media and in the opinion pages of international newspapers. Within a week of his most recent arrest, he had published op-eds in The Economist, The New York Times, Quartz and the Apple Daily.

I wonder out loud if he ever feels overwhelmed at taking on the Chinese Communist party, a task daunting even for some of the world’s most formidable governments and companies. He peers at me over his wire-framed glasses. “It’s our responsibility; if we don’t do it, who will? At least we are not in Xinjiang or Tibet; we are in Hong Kong,” he says, referring to two regions on Chinese soil on the frontline of Beijing’s drive to develop a high-tech surveillance state. In Xinjiang, at least one million people are being held in internment camps. “Even though we’re directly under the rule of Beijing, we have a layer of protection because we’re recognised as a global city so [Beijing] is more hesitant to act.”

I hear the sound of the wok firing up in the kitchen and ask him the question on everyone’s minds in Hong Kong: what happens next? Like many people who are closely following the extraordinary situation in Hong Kong, he is hesitant to make firm predictions.

“Lots of think-tanks around the world say ‘Oh, we’re China experts. We’re born in western countries but we know how to read Chinese so we’re familiar with Chinese politics.’ They predicted the Communist party would collapse after the Tiananmen Square massacre and they’ve kept predicting this over the past three decades but hey, now it’s 2019 and we’re still under the rule of Beijing, ha ha,” he grins.

While we are prophesying, does Wong ever think he might become chief executive one day? “No local journalist in Hong Kong would really ask this question,” he admonishes. As our lunch has progressed, he has become bolder in dissecting my interview technique. The territory’s chief executive is currently selected by a group of 1,200, mostly Beijing loyalists, and he doubts the Chinese Communist party would ever allow him to run. A few weeks after we meet he announces his candidacy in the upcoming district council elections. He was eventually the only candidate disqualified from running — an order that, after our lunch, he tweeted had come from Beijing and was “clearly politically driven”.

We turn to the more ordinary stuff of 23-year-olds’ lives, as Wong slurps the remainder of his milk tea. “Before being jailed, the thing I was most worried about was that I wouldn’t be able to watch Avengers: Endgame,” he says.

“Luckily, it came out around early May so I watched it two weeks before I was locked up in prison.” He has already quoted Spider-Man twice during our lunch. I am unsurprised when Wong picks him as his favourite character.

“I think he’s more . . . ” He pauses, one of the few times in the interview. “Compared to having an unlimited superpower or unlimited power or unlimited talent just like Superman, I think Spider-Man is more human.” With that, our friendly neighbourhood activist dashes off to his next interview.

【用細節贏得成功】(English writing below)
Win Success With Details

上星期六，我Youtube上了新影片：為什麼他比你成功？（https://youtu.be/YZ-GgOXlDKc）

那直播是我在2017年做的。還記得那天見了兩位客人，當晚1:10am三更半夜，興致勃勃地在沒有人的購物中心開直播。

都工作一整天了，我哪來的熱血沸騰呢？

因為那時不久前，看了這成龍2013年開講的影片，了解了他的奮鬥史，心中不停地為他所說的話歡呼及鼓掌。

這麼簡單的道理，三歲小孩都懂，可你知道嗎，很多人根本做不到。

大家的家庭背景差不多，學歷也差不多，為什麼有的人就能跑在那麽前面，有的差那麼遠？

我見的客人當中，很多人敗給了欲望，但更多的人是敗給了細節和傲慢，無論是修行上還是生活上。

這麼多年，通過我的文章和影片，我都苦口婆心地在告訴我的讀者、客人和小朋友們，因為我不想你迷上玄學，而忽略真正讓你失敗的原因。可能你聽了，只會覺得我苛刻，但你有沒有想過，可能因為是你不願意為更大的成功去奮鬥？

還是你甘心，被圍繞著你身邊的業障給阻礙呢？

成功的人，不會找藉口，不會只是在臉書上潑婦罵街。

他們只會找辦法，虛心向好的師父學。

有的人只研究八字風水，卻忽略了因果論。他們的盲點是以為八字和風水造就了一個人的個性。事實上，一個人的個性造就了他的八字，而因此引來了那樣的風水。

成龍是一個大福之人，因為前世、今世，他都不斷地種了很多的福因，利益了百千萬的人，所以才有大富貴大桃花之命。全世界最有名的華人，無論什麼膚色的人都認識的，應該就只有成龍了。

看看現實生活中成龍的事蹟，你就會明白自己哪裡不夠努力了。

當然，成功不只是名成利就，還有婚姻、家庭裡及宗教。這些一樣都是需要我們用心去經營，以細節展示我們對他人的關懷和在乎。

我每天都想改變我的人生。我當然也有怕的時候，也有自信零蛋的時候。但是，我最討厭的就是輸給我自己，我不要有遺憾。

成龍的開講很精彩，這裡只是一小段，想看完整影片，請到官方Youtube頻道：https://youtu.be/jgWWd-8G2mc

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Last Saturday, I uploaded a new video on my Youtube channel: Why is he more successful than you?（https://youtu.be/YZ-GgOXlDKc）

I did that Live in 2017. I met two clients that day, and it was at 1:10am in the middle of the night when I enthusiastically commenced my Live in an empty shopping mall.

After a whole day of work, where did I find that blood-racing energy from?

That was because not long ago, I watched a video of Jackie Chan's lecture from 2013. As I learnt about his story of struggles, my heart was cheering and applauding at his words.

A three-year-old child will have no problem understanding such a simple theory, but do you know that not many people can put that theory into application.

Have you think about this? Most of our family backgrounds are probably similar, and perhaps our education too. But why is that some people can be so far ahead in this race of Life, and some people are so far behind?

In the clients I see, many people lost to their desires, yet even more people are defeated by details and their self-inflated egos, be it in their spiritual cultivation or in their lives.

For so many years, through my writings and videos, I have been relentless in telling this to my readers, clients and students. Because I do not wish for you to get superstitious over Chinese Metaphysics and gloss over the true reason for your failure.

Perhaps after listening to me, you will only think of me as strict and harsh. But have you ever realised that it might be you who do not wish to fight more for your success?

And willingly be hindered by the karmic obstacles, be it people or things around you?

Successful people do not find excuses or rant on Facebook like a fish wife shouting abuse on the street.

They will only look for solutions and humbly learn from a good Master.

Many people only care to study Bazi and Feng Shui, but neglect the Law of Cause and Effect. It is our character that create our Bazi and Feng Shui, not the other way round.

Jackie Chan is a person of great fortune because in his previous lives and current life, he is constantly sowing the seeds of good fortune, benefiting thousands and millions of people. Thus, in his Bazi, he is befitting of a life of great prosperity and Peach Blossom luck.

He is probably the most well-known Chinese, recognised by people of various skin colours all over the world.

Study the real-life doings of Jackie Chan and you will understand how you are not diligent enough in cultivating yourself.

Of course, success isn't just about career and wealth accomplishments. It also include your marriage, family and religion. All these require us to pour our hearts in them, and demonstrate our love and care towards others through the small details.

Every day I am thinking of how to do better in my life. Sure there will be moments of fear and zero confidence. But what I hate most is losing to myself and have regrets.

Jackie Chan's lecture is brilliant. This is only a small excerpt. To watch the full video, please visit the official Youtube channel：https://youtu.be/jgWWd-8G2mc

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