It can be hard for us women to say out loud that we are successful,
partly due to imposter syndrome,
partly due to how we have been conditioned not to toot our own horn too loudly
and partly due to the fact than when many professional women feel overwhelmed and burnt out from stress of our jobs, the last thing we want to do is celebrate. 🥵
But celebrating your achievements thus far, however big or small is such an important step for your overall well-being and confidence moving forward.
And it’s so so important for women leaders as a whole to be celebrating themselves and to support each other. 🎉🥳🍾
When we are recognized and when we are appreciated, we can become so much more. ❤️
How are you celebrating your success today? How are you supporting and cheering for other successful women in your life?
If it’s one thing you do today, it is to pause and reflect on how hard you’ve worked and give yourself credit for how far you’ve come. 🥰
#bossbabe #womenleaders #womensupportingwomen #womenempowerment #celebrateyoursuccess #yourock #bosslady #womenleadership #womeninbusiness
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【一切的失敗和不足,都是最美好的安排】
All Failures & Lacks Are The Best Things to Happen to Us
三個月前,收到來自台灣客人的這封電郵時,開心和心酸交織著在心裡。
開心,因為這是一年前通過Zoom視訊的客人。他居然在我們看八字的一週年,特地寫了封感謝函給我,真有心!
心酸,因為他寫在電郵裡的低落心情,我完完全全明白。
他的經歷,是我的曾經。我當初也是很難,很久才能走出來。
有一回,我為一位芳華正茂的女子批八字時,她很用心的寫下我說的話。
論寫筆記的完整,她是我客人當中的佼佼者。
寫到一半,我注意到她的右手開始微微顫抖。我以為是空調的風太大了,冷到她,便問她要不要披巾。
她說,是她的焦慮症發作。
「我沒在兇你,也沒對你嚴厲,你為何突然焦慮?」
「我.....打從今年疫情打亂了我的計畫,我就一直很焦慮。我覺得我很沒用,同學們都前進了,只有我現在什麼都不是,亂糟糟的。我就一直很緊張,萬一我一直都是這樣,怎麼辦?」
說著,她眼眶一紅,眼淚像斷了線的珍珠鏈似的灑下來。
我的媽呀!是我的樣子長得很催淚,還是我的聲音聽起來很虐心?怎麼客人,不分男女老少,東南西北,看到我好像都很容易哭?
我抓起一張紙巾遞給她。
「所以,我不是來了嗎?你來找我,就是要問個明路,而你很幸運那麼快就看到我啦!你看你的筆記寫得多工整,多齊全。我很多客人都不如你啊!我今天的工作,就是來給你答案的。我沒有把握,也不會接你這份差事。我接了,就代表還可以補救。你照著我的指示去做,一定柳暗花明又一村。」
又另一回,一位四十多歲的媽媽請我看兒子的八字。
我在批著八字時,這位媽媽點頭認同,然後就聲淚俱下。
我轉頭看著她沈默不語的先生。我說錯了什麼嗎?太太哭成淚人,你怎麼連紙巾也不拿給她啊?
「我是個沒有用的母親,很不稱職的母親。我沒有辦法教好孩子。我很愛他,可是很多時候我都不知道要怎麼做,我就會對他發脾氣,說狠話,過後我又後悔。我忍下來,可是後來還是會一樣!」
我沒打斷她,等她的哭聲逐漸小聲後,我柔柔的說:「我來啦!我坐在你前面了。你已經看到我,就是有辦法了。你知道你自己不行,會去找辦法,就代表你願意去學習做個好媽媽啊!」
我把紙巾遞給她,再說:「不要哭了,要不然,別人看了以為是我不要借你錢,才把你弄得那麼傷心。」
曾幾何時,我們都會以外在所擁有的,來定義自己的人生是否值得自己喜歡。
從原生家庭、樣貌、健康、身型、智力、天賦等,到後來的學歷、友情、事業、財富、婚姻、子女......
哪一樣沒有,而偏偏是我們最想要的,我們就會認定自己失敗的一塌糊塗。
我認為這就是普通教育最大的問題所在。父母老師都是這樣把我們「分門別類」的。值不值得父母疼愛或向親朋戚友炫耀,也離不開那幾點。
久而久之,我們也只會以「成功」來定義自己是否有價值,甚至來衡量自己是否有活下去的勇氣。
我比較喜歡佛法的定義。我們每個人都是一尊佛,六道眾生皆有佛性,只因一時的迷,因此墮落在苦輪不停的輪迴。
可正因為我們有佛性,我們都有無窮無盡的可能。每個人的內在有著很強大的力量,等著我們遇到明師後,去發掘、探索和了解。
而這天生俱來的力量,就是你改命立命的資本。
如果人生順風順水,我們永遠不會想要出離,誤把人間當極樂,所以一定要有苦,我們才會意識到,為什麼我們會在這鬼地方?要怎麼樣才可以離開這鬼地方去到極樂?
反過來,我們都應該感恩自己遇到的挫折,因為從這些苦中,我們才能生出智慧。
沒有一個八字是完美的。一切的失敗和不足,都是最美好的安排,如此你才會有出離心,返本歸源。
_______________________
3 months ago, when I received this email from my Taiwan client, there was this feeling of bittersweetness.
I was happy because this was the client I did a Zoom consultation last June. He sent me this email on the one-year anniversary date of our Zoom call, to express his gratitude. How sweet!
On the other hand, I could relate to the emotional turmoil he felt at that point in his life.
His experience was my past. It also took me a very long time to walk out from my gloominess.
Once, I analysed the Bazi of a very young lady. She was meticulously jotting down notes as I spoke.
Her detailed note-taking skills easily took the top place among my clients.
Halfway through, I noticed her right hand was trembling slightly. I thought it was due to the cold draft from the air conditioning, so I asked if she needed a shawl.
She replied that it was her anxiety disorder acting up.
“I was not fierce or strict with you. What caused your sudden anxiety?”
“I…ever since the pandemic disrupted my plans, I have been in this state of anxiety. I kept feeling useless. All my classmates are progressing expect me. I have nothing to show for and my life is in a mess. I am very anxious. What if I continue to be like this? What am I going to do?”
As she spoke, her eyes turned red and tears started rolling down like a broken strand of pearl necklace scattering onto the ground.
Oh dear! I am beginning to wonder if I have a tear-jerker face or a heart-tormenting voice. Why do my clients, regardless of gender and age, North South or East West, seem to cry easily when they see me?
I grabbed a piece of tissue and handed it to her.
“Ain’t I here already? You came to me for a roadmap and you are very lucky to see me so soon. Look at how precise and neat your notes are! Many of my clients aren’t even on par with you. My job today is to give you answers. If I didn’t have the confidence, I would not have taken up your request. Now that I did, that means there is still hope. If you follow my instructions, you will see things looking up very soon.”
On another occasion, a mother in her forties came to me for her son’s Bazi consultation.
As I was analysing, the mother nodded her head in agreement. The next thing I know, she started weeping loudly.
I turned to look at her husband, who had been silent all along. Did I say something wrong? And hello, your wife was crying. Why weren’t you gentleman enough to give her a tissue paper?
“I am a useless mother. I am incompetent. I do not know how to teach my son well. I love my son very much. But many times, I do not know what to do and thus I flare up at him and speak harshly. I always regret afterwards. I tried enduring but it still ends badly!”
I did not interrupt her and waited for her cries to soften, before speaking gently, “I’m here! I’m already sitting in front of you. You are looking at me now and that means help is here. You know that you are incompetent, so you went looking for solutions. That means you are willing to learn how to be a better mother!”
I handed a piece of tissue and said, “Don’t cry anymore, otherwise, other patrons will think that it’s because I refuse to lend you money.”
Since young, we have been using external possessions to define whether our lives are worth liking.
The family we are born into, our looks, health, body shape, intellect, talents, and then we move on to compare our academics, friendships, career, wealth, marriage and children.
If we are lacking in the area we covet most, we grade our lives as a failure.
I think this is the biggest problem in societal education. Our parents and teachers categorized us that way. Whether we as children are worthy of their love and bragging, depends on the few points above too.
Thus over time, we can only use the term “success” to determine whether we are of value, for some people, whether they should live on to take their next breath.
I very much prefer the definition in Buddhism. We are all Buddhas. Each and every sentient being in the six realms has a Buddha nature in them. But they got lost momentarily and fell into the endless wheel of reincarnation.
Yet, because of our Buddha nature, we have an unlimited source of potential. Every one of us has a very powerful strength inside us. It is just waiting for us to meet an accomplished teacher, so that we have the tools to explore and understand it:
And this strength that we are born with is the capital for us to transform and establish our own destiny.
If life is smooth-sailing, we would never want to leave and would mistake this mortal realm for Pureland. Thus, we all need sufferings, to realise that we should break out of this hell of a place. There has to be a better world somewhere. So how we get there?
We should, in fact, be grateful for all the setbacks and failures we have. Because it is from these sufferings, our wisdom arise:
No single Bazi is perfect. Every failure and lack we experience is the best arrangement for us, so that the heart of renunciation will arise in us and we will return to where we came from.
too loudly 在 林绿 Lynn Facebook 的最讚貼文
You were spotted on a bustling highway.
Tiny, ugly, tailless and terrified.
Your little body trembling with fear, a strong urine stench was emitting from your body.
A week later. I woke up to you snuggling in my bed; pillow to be exact, securely, warmly.
Since then new house laws were enforced.
My bed was your bed. I was your mother. I was your favourite human who provides you unlimited food and endless playtime.
You then befriended Twelve and Monkey.
Three of you shared a bed, a blanket, a bowl of water.
But not their food.
You, however, welcomed them to enjoy your bowl of kibbles generously.
My first thought was: what a loving cat.
In hindsight, you probably thought: The human will refill my bowl with fresh kibbles. Two of you can have my leftovers.
You were named Goku for two reasons; too vigorous as a kitten and for a long time I believed you were immortal, just like the manga character.
4 months later we moved.
You grew into a rebellious teenager. Longed for a taste of freedom and the outside world.
Your free and wild spirit wouldn’t keep you home. You broke the mosquito net and habitually left house for wildlife adventure.
Once you didn’t return for one and a half day.
Your picture was up. I canvassed the neighbourhood and called for you.
Nothing.
I thought you were gone for good. You craze for freedom after all.
The second night you returned meowing for food and water and snuggles. I performed a dramatic scene.
I believed you understood my performance, because ever since, you never once spent another night out.
You always come home.
Your freedom didn’t come free. It came with three cat bells.
When the three cat bells jangling they played as a smoothing refrain.They became my lullaby that reassured that you were around, healthily, happily.
And it calmed my anxious heart.
You. My lizard catcher. My life saviour.
My whole life, the relationship between the lizards and me have been fiery.
Shrieking, bouncing, yelling when there’s one.
You appeared to protect me from them.
I felt safe under your surveillance.
Despite some odd days you instinctively showed appreciation by bringing one to bed, at two in the morning, your appreciation is very much appreciated.
But now my lizard catcher is gone.
The walls creaked the night you left.
Lizards paraded in the house, hissed loudly, as if they were celebrating victory their biggest enemy, my lizard catcher has gone forever.
I loathed them for that.
Over the past one month, home has become something else.
It feels empty without your surveillance.
Soundless without your bells jangling.
The bed and pillow feel naked.
The air smells bitter and heavy and icy.
My body and imagination have gone riot.
Every insect I see around the house I suspect that is you come back to pay a visit.
Then my lungs behaving strange. Like a puntured balloon that will never reach a full measure of oxygen.
My heart feels like its sinking one inch deeper into a dark abyss each time I think of you.
A few times the baby at next house cries and I mistaken that is you that came home meowing for me.
Only to be reminded you are gone.
And I feel abandoned.
The day I planted your ashes in the white Morning Glory.
A butterfly dropped by.
Watching me place your Morning Glory on your favourite, regular spot near the gate, carefully, peacefully.
Now whenever my hearts sinks one inch deeper.
I step out of the house and stare at you; your white Morning Glory.
And I see you: your obstinacy, your haughtiness, your delicacy.
Your White Morning Glory, it’s growing free and it’s growing wild.
Just like you.
too loudly 在 Roller Katherine Youtube 的最佳貼文
I do not own the copy right of this view. This was an interview back in 2019. And I'm so sorry for my broken voice, I taught kids too loudly and I damaged it.
I'm so glad that this interview allows me to express my feeling towards this sports and let me tell why am I still here, working hard. It's not all about me, it's also about the next skating generation.
too loudly 在 Dominic Chin Youtube 的最佳解答
Download link: https://soundcloud.com/dominic-christian-chin/glorious-and-beautiful-cover
Hi guys,
this song was recently represented at my church, New Creation Church's youth camp called "Legacy" and the minute we first worshipped to the song, it resonated so loudly in my spirit.
"When all I am is lost in who You are" is my favourite lyrics of the song and it is because, I think for a lot of us, we get plagued with many evil, negative thoughts of what other think of us, or if we are validated by them, and that sentence spoke to me on a deep level.
Replacing my identity with something that was so painfully but willingly given to me, the title of 'righteous' and 'loved'... How beautiful is the Lord Jesus?
Thanks Pastor Daniel and Sean for writing this beautiful song, may you continue to write such anointed songs for the glory of God!!!
Special mention too to my bro Aaron for playing the amazing keys, it's so anointed man!!!
Be blessed :)
Regards,
Dominic Chin
too loudly 在 pennyccw Youtube 的最佳解答
In what is becoming an annual ritual, the Chicago Bulls received
their NBA championship rings and trounced the Philadelphia
76ers, 94-74, in their home opener.
Ron Harper scored 17 points and Michael Jordan 16 for the Bulls,
who led by as many as 31 points and bounced back from Friday's
stunning loss at Boston.
Chicago has beaten Philadelphia 16 straight times since December
8th, 1993. Last season, the Bulls won at Boston and returned
home to receive their rings and pound Philadelphia, 115-86.
In a pregame ceremony lasting 30 minutes, Bulls management and
players received their rings before the championship banner was
unfurled. General manager Jerry Krause, who has threatened to
break up the team after this season, was loudly booed.
But coach Phil Jackson was introduced next and the crowd noise
turned to cheers thereafter. The loudest cheers were for Jordan
and injured All-Star forward Scottie Pippen, who cried and said,
"It's been a great ride."
Pippen has feuded with Krause and is a free agent at the end of
the season, when he said he is leaving the team.
"Scottie was very emotional after the ring ceremony," Jordan
said. "We can all feel that way, because it can be a farewell
speech for any of us, but we have a job to do and need to
concentrate on it."
The Bulls also figured out a way to slow down 76ers guard Allen
Iverson, who was making his season debut after sitting out a
league suspension for Friday's opener. They started 6-1 Randy
Brown, who matched up well with the lightning-quick Rookie of
the Year.
Iverson, who averaged 37.7 points per game over his last three
meetings with Chicago, was held to 13 points, shooting 5-of-15
from the field and committing eight turnovers.
"We had no offense at all tonight," Philadelphia coach Larry
Brown said. "I thought we played three good minutes at the
beginning of the game, and that's about it. Don't point the
finger at Iverson, it was our whole offense that
self-destructed."
"This is not a new Allen you're seeing," Iverson said. "I'm not
changing my game a lot, I am just trying to keep everyone
involved. We are just trying to adjust to each other. So far
it doesn't look too good."
The Sixers (0-2) jumped to a 6-0 lead, but the Bulls responded
with 10 straight points and never trailed thereafter. Jordan
scored eight points and Harper six as Chicago opened a 27-15
lead after one quarter, and Harper's hoop boosted the lead to
33-15 with 10:10 left in the first half.
"This was a good game for us tonight," Jordan said. "With the
ring ceremony, we were able to transfer that emotion onto the
floor, and we were able to sustain it throughout the game."
A jumper by Jerry Stackhouse pulled Philadelphia within 52-39
with 9:15 left in the third quarter, but Jordan and Harper had
four points each in an 8-0 burst. The Sixers responded with an
8-0 run of their own before the Bulls put away the game.
Jason Caffey scored eight of his 14 points as Chicago closed the
quarter with a 19-2 spurt, opening a 79-49 lead. The Bulls'
largest lead was 86-55 and Philadelphia got no closer than the
final margin.
"We talked to the team a lot about the third-quarter breakdown
in last night's game," Jackson said. "We told them to be
prepared for a big push after the half, our people gave us a
real good effort, and broke the game open."
Luc Longley had 12 points and 10 rebounds and Dennis Rodman had
13 boards for the Bulls, who shot 49 percent (40-of-81) from the
field and forced 27 turnovers.
"Scoring will always be an issue with us until Scottie gets
back," Jackson said. "Right now we're concentrating on getting
our scoring from good defense, and using it for transition
points."
Stackhouse scored 15 points and Jim Jackson 13 for the Sixers,
who shot 37 percent (29-of-78). Eric Montross had 10 rebounds.
"We're not really what I consider a team right now. We're very
confused," Larry Brown said.
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